Hello Fellow Survivors.
Sometimes it's hard to keep going, particularly if you're self employed or self sustaining. Sometimes, I don't even want to get up in the morning, knowing I have to feed, wash, dress and herd two kids to two different schools, before I can start doing a load of other things I'd rather not. Thing is though, I know that if I don't get up when that alarm goes off at seven a.m. then I'm going to have the school on my back and two kids under my feet while I'm trying to get on with every thing else I need to do. Another way of looking at it is...
If I do get up, then I'll get the kids to school and have a clear six hours to get everything else out of the way. I see the benefit, and that's what get's me out of bed every day.
What about everything else?
Yeah, so the kids are at school and I can enjoy a coffee break while I think about the filing, cleaning, bill paying, laundry and house repairs I have in-front of me. I have my note book and pen, something I like on the radio, and I set about listing the tasks so that I have a clear understanding of what needs to be done, rather than running a list through my head all day that forces me off track and makes things seem impossible.
* Pay bills
* Clear gutters
The first thing to do with my list is check I'm doing everything in the right order. The laundry looks after itself once it's on, so put that on first. It makes sense to pay the bills before I do the filing, so...
My revised list:
* Pay bills
* Clear gutters
A clear understanding of what I'm doing
I'm only half way through my coffee, and set about breaking my tasks down into detailed steps.
* Collect laundry, sort into wash types, put first load on.
* Pay Water and Energy bills on line, record pay date and put with filing.
* Separate filing into recycle, shred and keep piles, categorise keeps and file, shred and recycle.
* (Hang washing and start next load)
You see where this is going, but it's not really motivating us to do any of this, is it? Well here's the important bit...
Think 'If I do, then I can...'
It's important to think this way, rather than 'If I don't, then I can't...' Don't then Can't thinking can amplify a fear of consequence that you could easily start to associate with the task itself. It's amazing how much energy is eaten up by low priority tasks that you're constantly reminded of: The deadline for that form might be weeks away now, but it's going to get closer and closer and harder and harder to engage; No body want's to make a call to explain that they can't pay a bill. We might imagine all kinds of horrors will occur as a result. And we'll keep imagining, and things will seem worse each time we remember that the call needs to be made. Sometimes the only benefit is 'If I do this, then I can stop worrying about it.'
Break tasks down into stages. Think of simple positive benefits. E.g...
* If I separate the filing into three piles, then I can focus on just the keeps.
* If I categorise the keeps, then I can put each pile straight into it's folder in one go.
* If I finish the filing, then I can have a biscuit.
Don't forget to recognise each accomplishment, and reward yourself if you think you deserve it.
I hope this helps.
Thanks for reading and Keep going.